just wondering.......need help

jrae · 06-24-07, 05:24 PM

Hey everybody. So, I was just looking for advice. Should a wedding reception be at the church fellowship building following the ceremony....or should you pay to have it at a country club,etc? I am currently having a knock-down dragout fight with my parents about this. Personally, I want to have a reception somewhere besides the church so that we can have dancing and serve alcohol. Their point is that if not many ppl dance anyway, is there really any point? (as far as expenses go) We are planning to go to Italy for the honeymoon.

I also was wondering if I had the reception at church, would they still allow me to have the first dance with my husband

This is too confusing to me.

For any of those that can help, I would really appreciate the input.

**Big Al** · 06-24-07, 05:40 PM

I say go anywhere but the church... celebrate... if nobody dances,, so be it, but like you said,, then you can drink up..

**Illiy** · 06-24-07, 05:41 PM

I would have it somewhere else... there are a lot of rules involved...

Its a one time deal... you don't want ot have to worry about what you can and can't do...

Also, remember, no matter what anyone else says... its your wedding and you two are the only ones who matter...

Hum... not too much help sorry...

**Virginian** · 06-24-07, 06:22 PM

Definitely go elsewhere. People are much less likely to stick around and socialize in a church setting.

**jmur5074** · 06-24-07, 06:23 PM

For a nominal fee I'll let you guys use my basement.

But....only the wedding party will be allowed. And they will be unable to dance due to lack of space.

Up to you, get back to me.

**Terminator** · 06-24-07, 06:25 PM

Originally Posted by jmur5074

For a nominal fee I'll let you guys use my basement.

But....only the wedding party will be allowed. And they will be unable to dance due to lack of space.

Up to you, get back to me.

I suppose you want a ringside seat for the honeymoon night, too.

**RIMAMARIA** · 06-24-07, 06:36 PM

Set a PRO CON list on a piece of paper,

? are you deely rooted in your church? if so you may ask the mnister about rules and such.
? if you and your fiance want to party? maybe the church has too many restrictions?

It is a very personal decision, you and your fiance need to be picking the best possible place. It is the most special day of your lives, and if your family wants to push something on you, maybe you should do some research in regards to the rules they believe in,

remember you do not have to agree with other people's rules

your priorities matters most.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

friends

Rima in NH

**Buttercup** · 06-24-07, 06:58 PM

The point is that if you want to dance, who cares about anyone else? People will take their cues from you. I think you should go somewhere other than the church fellowship hall. It's about what you and your fiance want, it's for the two of you and not anyone else and you will never have that day again. Don't put yourself in a situation where you might look back and say, "I wish we'd been able to have a first dance and to the song we wanted."

Just my .02

**Sapper_132** · 06-24-07, 07:06 PM

When I got married the 1st time. We had the after party at the church. Cause thats what her parents wanted. I had a buddy bring in some booze and tend bar. I went well, but some people were plastered and that didn't sit well with the church. I was one of them. but oh well... Go somewhere else if you can.

**Roses** · 06-24-07, 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by jrae

I also was wondering if I had the reception at church, would they still allow me to have the first dance with my husband

This is too confusing to me.

For any of those that can help, I would really appreciate the input.

Just let the band know you want the 1st dance with your husband. If kids will be attending the reception they will probably have some fun dancing on the floor while you and Brad mingle with the guest until it's time for the first dance. Kids can't sit still and while guest are finishing their meals kids will probably be on the dance floor. If your guest are the type that like to dance then don't put the first dance off too long. Some do it before they cut the cake or toss the bouquet and garter.

**jmur5074** · 06-24-07, 08:55 PM

Originally Posted by Terminator

I suppose you want a ringside seat for the honeymoon night, too.

I was thinking a "sniffers row" type thing....yeah...

**Crimebytes2** · 06-24-07, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by jrae

Personally, I want to have a reception somewhere besides the church so that we can have dancing and serve alcohol.

I do believe you have answered your very own question, gurl!

Remember whose wedding it is... yours and... hmmm... I forget now... oh well, never mind! I'm sure his name will come to me later.

Anyway, your wedding should reflect you. Besides, you're a big girl now... recognize that you're in control of your own life and this includes your wedding!

**Tony** · 06-25-07, 05:29 AM

Originally Posted by Illiy

I would have it somewhere else... there are a lot of rules involved...

Its a one time deal... you don't want ot have to worry about what you can and can't do...

Also, remember, no matter what anyone else says... its your wedding and you two are the only ones who matter...

Hum... not too much help sorry...

No Illiy, you hit the nail on the head, it's their wedding.

Oh and Italy sounds great for a honeymoon.

See, further support for doing what YOU want to do!!!

Originally Posted by Crimebytes2

I do believe you have answered your very own question, gurl!

Remember whose wedding it is... yours and... hmmm... I forget now... oh well, never mind! I'm sure his name will come to me later.

Anyway, your wedding should reflect you. Besides, you're a big girl now... recognize that you're in control of your own life and this includes your wedding!