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    Do you have a hard time accepting other peoples niceness?

    I find it hard to let people buy stuff for me or do things for me. 99% of the time I'll turn down help if offered, only because I'd rather prove that I can do it by myself. I'll be the first to offer my help to someone else though.
    I also have a hard time accepting free food from others, even though I have no problem giving my extra food to my co-workers.

    Recently, one of my LT's was trying to buy me lunch, and I wouldn't let him. That is until he almost had to yell at me to let him buy it. I know it's him being nice and he doesn't expect anything from it. I just have a hard time accepting stuff like that.

    Anybody else?


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    I'm almost the same way - no clue the reason. Just hard-headed I guess.
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    I always fight for the bill at restaurants.

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    I'm easy, go ahead try to force me to accept a meal.


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    I don't have a problem with folks buying me lunch, I do the same for them so it all works out.

    Since I retired more folks buy my lunch than ever before, I let them because they offer and I really don't want to offend them.

    I far as other things I do it myself because I hate for others help. Things like cutting trees, carpentry work, which I have to muddle through, painting stull like that.
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    I am the same way, generous, prefer to give then to get.

    Ironically I was once told that this trait can mean "A person feels they are not worthy of receiving" (gifts)

    I only took that comment with a grain of salt because it came from someone who was studying pyschology and was a nut themself. Funny how the fruitiest of fruits study physchology, trying to find themselves or why they are so F'd up. My response to that comment was more to do with Independence then worthiness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna View Post
    I always fight for the bill at restaurants.
    You can buy me dinner any time
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ender View Post
    You can buy me dinner any time
    Quote Originally Posted by armsmaster270 View Post
    I'm easy, go ahead try to force me to accept a meal.
    Bunch of mooches J/K

    I am about 50/50. I buy but I sure as heck hope they buy the next time around, I am not made of money with gas being over 4 bucks (THEM BASTARDS SHOULD BE BUYING US ALL LUNCH)
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    I don't really have a problem accepting that sort of thing from friends, etc. I know that I pickup the bill my fair share of the time.
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    I do have a little difficulty accepting things but then again I do realize that some people really are just nice and without ulterior motives, so in those situations I accept gracefully with a sincere thank-you.

    When paying the check in restaurants, sometimes I'll pick up the bill, sometimes my friends will - we go out often enough that it evens out, I don't worry about that kind of thing.




 

 

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