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  • YES! Shame on you, you evil bastard! Even if she does want you, you're still a dick!

    1 2.70%
  • YES! You're a homewrecker, and she realized that last night was a mistake and isn't calling you.

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  • Maybe you are, maybe not, but it doesn't matter because you guys deserve happiness.

    6 16.22%
  • No, but just to be safe, hold off unless the engagement actually breaks up.

    21 56.76%
  • HELL NO! Engagement ain't nothing but a ring thing, brother!

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    Vote, and let me know if you think I'm an asshole!
    Because of this, or just in general?

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    I think you need to end this whole thing quick. She's engaged. She should be off limits to you and you should be off limits to her. What I'm reading out of all of this is that you guys are already having an emotional affair but saying it's okay because it's nothing physical.

    I think you have to stop your mind from wandering down the road of "What ifs" and stop everything before a "what if" becomes a "what now?"

    No matter how cute, sweet, funny, attractive, whatever this girl is, you deserve better than a girl who doesn't draw the line at threatening her own engagement. Be careful my friend, this has trouble written all over it.

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    Dude if you want to be with her and she wants to be with you go for it. Just be prepared for the jealous ex, and everthing that comes with it. You only get one life, have fun.


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    none of this will matter once you're inside her.
    Do you want me to get naked and start the revolution?

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    It sounds like she's got troubles with her relationship with her fiancee that have nothing to do with you. Right now, you're giving her what she needs emotionally that her fiancee isn't giving her. She does need to break it off, but I'm sure she doesn't like the idea of going it alone either. Sometimes people just need someone to hold their hand while they do the right - but difficult - thing.

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    I was going to vote you are a flaming homo, but that option was not on the list.... Actually I would hit it, then hit it some more, just wear that poo-tang out brotha!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by WAMBAUGHREADER
    none of this will matter once you're inside her.
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    I was going to vote you are a flaming homo, but that option was not on the list.... Actually I would hit it, then hit it some more, just wear that poo-tang out brotha!!!!!
    And these guys, ladies and gents, is why I come here the rare times I need relationship advice. You just can't get that honesty anywhere else.

    Ducky, do you think that if she gets up the brass to break off her engagement, I will no longer serve a purpose? I got her through the hard times and will then have outlived my appeal too? An interesting perspective I had not though of as of yet....
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    Quote Originally Posted by WAMBAUGHREADER
    none of this will matter once you're inside her.

    gotta love the voice of reason...

    dude, youre a young guy, you seem pretty level headed, etc. shes not married, neither are you. play it out however you want to. we cant tell you what to do. sometimes you just gotta go with your gut. if you really like her, pursue the relationship and be prepared for everything that will follow. use your head. youll make the right choice.

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    In my opinion, I do not get a very good feeling about this girl. She seem's to have a lot on her plate right now, and it seems like you are playing the role of her emotional caregiver. She has a child from a previous relationship whom she should be focusing all her attention on right now. How would you be able to trust her if you becam e involved in a relationship? Why don't you make a suggestion to "Mary" that she and her fiance try counselling. If you give her the attention that you have been, and totally no fault of yours, she will take it all in and look for more. Maybe her fiance is really great with her child, and Mary might just be trying to paint a terrible picture of the guy. Just be careful, Mary might have a problem staying true to one relationship. Don't let your feelings get in the way of your better judgement. I'll tell you one thing though, if I was involved with a man who was not considerate of my boys, engaged or not, he would out the front door. If Mary says that her fiance is not good with her child, than how could she trust him to be left alone with her child? I think she's playing you. And no, I don't think that you are a homewrecker, I just think that you have a very big heart....
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  12. #32
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    Quote Originally Posted by 121Traffic
    Ducky, do you think that if she gets up the brass to break off her engagement, I will no longer serve a purpose? I got her through the hard times and will then have outlived my appeal too? An interesting perspective I had not though of as of yet....

    I'm not Ducky, but I like to throw my opinion out when it's not asked for. I'm obnoxious like that.

    I think that if you stayed in the picture, yes, your time would expire eventually. Maybe not at the same time, but eventually. If you left the situation, let her resolve her problems and move on with her life as she desires and she ends up deciding to end the engagement and live with just her and her son, you could have a chance at a decent relationship that may work out. I would excuse myself from the situation and let paths cross again when the timing is better. I know that's easier said than done, but in the long run, it's the healthiest resolution for all parties involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 121Traffic
    let me know if you think I'm an asshole!

    by the way... I think you're an asshole.

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    Quote Originally Posted by katiemh
    by the way... I think you're an asshole.
    Can you call me names and spank me please....
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    Quote Originally Posted by michiganstud
    You can't help who you fall in love with. I say go for it. If she falls for you you can't help that.
    Exactly!!!! Rep for you Michigan.
    Last edited by Cris1102; 03-03-06 at 08:52 PM.

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    I don't know that she would definitely outgrow you after her hard time is over, but it's a possibility. I know I met Mr Ducky when I was going through a particularly hard time (separation / divorce) and he helped me through it. In turn, I helped him through his. If anyone is a homewrecker, it's me. He and I have been together for seven years now, happy as hell and still stupidly in love. Not all end that way though. Love is a risk, but only time will tell if it's love or infatuation. They both feel the same at the beginning.
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    121,

    I left you a message on another forum regarding your post, but I'll reiterate here:

    As hard as it may be, I think you need to back off. She IS living with someone else. She IS engaged to someone else. She DOES go home to him every night and she DOES share the same bed with him.

    What she may be telling you while she's with you could be a totally different story about how things are when she's with him. She's lying to her bf and herself, what makes you think she's not lying to you?

    Suppose you two do get together? Will you be able to trust her knowing what she did to her bf? Would she do the same thing to you at some point down the road? Will she have regrets?

    You seem like such a nice guy. I'd hate to see you get hurt, but unfortunately, if you continue, I'm afraid that's exactly what will happen.

    Please, by all means, think with your head and try not to jump in with your heart. You need to look at the whole picture...

    I wish you a lot of luck in all of this. I know it's not easy.

    FWIW, I sure hope I'm wrong in my assessment.

    Hugs to you.

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    eff the other guy. If he was doing shit right, he wouldn't be in this position. She does need to make a decision soon though, preferably before the first anything.

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    I don't agree that just because she seems to be falling for you while engaged to someone else indicates that she will be a cheater. And obviously she thought this other guy was the "one" til she met you. People make mistakes. I think it's wrong to hold mistakes a person has made against them. Just a little "too" judgmental for me. And like I've read in other people's posts, love is a risk. There are no guarantees. But you'll never know til you try.

 

 
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