If youre checking on an elderly relative...

**OffDuty** · 10-16-06, 09:26 PM

If you are checking the welfare of an elderly relative, please let me know the truthful time that someone has last spoken to them. When you tell me "a couple of days" thats fine, if it is a couple of days.

When we make it inside the residence and find the relative expired, mummified and crawling with larve, with eyes already gone, that is NOT a "couple of days" expired. Mrs OffDuty suggested that maybe relatives dont want to admit they arent checking up on relatives as often as you should. Thats fine, but it lessens my suprise when I find your loved one in said condition.

Thats all. /end death rant.

1*girl · 10-16-06, 09:30 PM

Rough day for you, too, huh?

**10-42Adam** · 10-16-06, 09:41 PM

It is ashame when people have to lie about when the last time they checked on them was. At that point it's way too late for that!

**Ducky** · 10-16-06, 09:56 PM

That sucks, man. Sorry you had to go through that.

**OffDuty** · 10-16-06, 11:06 PM

Thanks all. not a rough day, just sharing the annoyance. Its like DUIs that have had "a couple of beers" but who test out at .21. When I ask you the question, I already have a pretty good idea- just be honest!

Like the guy today with an expired (by a month-not bad) plate. Why didnt you take care of it yet?

"Well to be honest with you sir, I've just been lazy. No good excuse".

Fair enough. He got a warning- no ticket, no impound. Just be honest.

*sigh* but now Im home

**Michelle** · 10-16-06, 11:14 PM

I have an elderly neighbor (she's 81), who grandson and his wife lives right next door to her in a connected house.

Well, just this last Monday the ambulance went to her house. Long story short, I found out what hospital she was at and went to see if she needed anything. No family member was there and no family member knew she was there. I called some of her relatives when I got home and they acted like they didn't know who she was at first. I think they are tired of doing for her and was affraid she needed something from them.

When her grandson got home from his route, he went straight to sleep. I tried to wake him up by honking my horn, but didn't work. Finally by that evening I was able to catch him awake. He was mad that no one told him and started to blame his grandmother for not listening to him, she's stubborn, she forgets blah blah blah. I thought, Idiot!

So I would like to add that if you can't handle taking care of your elderly relative, please contact an official that can.

**kay88** · 10-17-06, 12:19 AM

Originally Posted by Michelle

So I would like to add that if you can't handle taking care of your elderly relative, please contact an official that can.

I agree. Even relatives you may not want to (meaning that the pressure would be too much and you don't think that you will have the time or patience to) or can't handle taking care of are still people too. They still have needs and have the rights to have someone, be it a relative or professional, taking care of them. I'll never understand people...at all...

**Just KC** · 10-17-06, 12:54 AM

Oy...that is rough! I do agree with you. Sorry you had to deal with that.

**OFK** · 10-17-06, 01:16 AM

Originally Posted by kay88

I agree. Even relatives you may not want to or can't handle taking care of are still people too. They still have needs. I'll never understand people...at all...

If you don't take care of your own, then who will take care of you when you reach that age? I would never just let that happen. It makes me so sick.

**kay88** · 10-17-06, 03:41 AM

Originally Posted by OFK

If you don't take care of your own, then who will take care of you when you reach that age? I would never just let that happen. It makes me so sick.

Especially when most elderly people do not want to go to a nursing home. My great grandma lived to the age of 95, and was living at her home in New Ulm, MN until she was 94. She would not have been able to stay in her home if she didn't have all of us checking up on her all the time and making sure she was okay and such...

**Willowdared** · 10-17-06, 02:04 PM

Oh man!

We have a program called YANA - You Are Not Alone. Our senior volunteers check on elderly residents on a daily basis to make sure they are still okay.

When my Great-Grandmother was still alive, she was in a program that teamed independant elderly with a group home for semi-independant special needs adults. The group home residents were paid to to light housework everyday at the homes of the elderly. They both benefitted from the daily interaction.

**Vendetta** · 10-17-06, 04:30 PM

Oh the pictures I could post for this topic

**gozling** · 10-17-06, 04:56 PM

ouch
ugh
yuk!

**Ducky** · 10-17-06, 05:02 PM

So you're saying it's going to be a closed casket funeral?

**OffDuty** · 10-18-06, 11:31 PM

Originally Posted by Vendetta

Oh the pictures I could post for this topic

You and me both...

Originally Posted by Ducky

So you're saying it's going to be a closed casket funeral?

Um, most definitely in this cae.

Yeah I agree, and that was the point- these elderly people shoudl have someone to check on them, if not a realtive. There are programs like that here too, if people know about the people who could use a check. Im sure ths woman got around okay, but like I mentioned, when your hourglass sands are running out, you need someone to check on you..