Woman, What's Your Role in Marriage?

**Terminator** · 02-15-09, 02:17 PM

Am I a suitable helper for my husband?

We look in the Bible to follow God’s project for the family as the Great architect created all things. The Scripture points the roll of the woman in family building:"The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down." Proverbs 14:1

God created Adam in the Garden of Eden "to work it and take care of it". (Genesis 2:15) So we can see Adam had a job as soon as he was created, to work the Garden and take care of it. For sure God created the woman to help Adam to one of these two activities related to his work in Eden Garden: work it and take care. If God’s intention had been to create a physical helper for Adam in the Garden, undoubtedly He wouldn’t have created the woman but somebody much stronger than she was.

It seem that she was created as a partner suitable for Adam, in taking care of the Garden. However the necessities of guarding were not about thieves or wild animals because all the animals there, were all herbivorous and in a perfect harmony. Eve was created for Adam to help him take care of something else there in the Garden. Most probably Eve was created by God as a helper suitable for Adam within the purpose to help him in watch over the Command given to him: " you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die" Genesis 2:17

The wife was created for her husband to be the most suitable helper in the spiritual battle. She is the one who knows and feels best the struggles, worries and anxiety her husband goes through. No one can share the happiness or sorrow of her husband deeper than the wife. Nobody can experience the spiritual high or the deep falls of the husband better than his spouse. So who else will God use in a man’s life if not his very wife?

"Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers". 1Peter3:7

But how can this "weaker partner" be a appropriate helper?

Take a look at the meaning of "helper". In Hebrew language "help" is "eezer". Abraham had a servant named Eliezer, for he said, "My father's God was my helper" Exodus 18:4 also Samuel took a stone and named it Ebenezer, saying, "Thus far has the LORD helped us" (1 Samuel 7:12) , recognizing this way the Lord’s help. Such as the meaning of this "helper", refers to receiving help from Someone more powerful (God), shows that the wife is not inferior to her husband, but has enough power to be the suitable helper as God considers it is best (I am not saying she is stronger than men although in certain areas she might be, what I refer to is the fact that if God Himself says about the woman that she is the appropriate help, it means she does have all means to accomplish this call).

Why would man need a suitable assistant, it there some kind of a danger?

God told Adam not to "eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die" so he was in the danger of death every moment. The helper God intended through Eve is justified in the context.

Today, it means that the wife covers the husband in the spiritual battle in the sense that she knows his best and also his weakest points and she knows how to act consequently. "For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms" Ephesians 6:12

So the danger is the spiritual battle we are involved in. In God’s wisdom He created the women so the man can be helped by God through her. We, man and woman, are equal in value but different in roles.

Let your husband feel your appreciation for what he does for you and family. He needs to know that for you (his wife) he is very important. He really is the most important person on the earth for you, but he needs to know!

Statistics show how within couples that pray together, the divorce rate less than 1%! The power comes from prayer, from discussing the issues with God in every aspect of live, that’s why keep him in your prayers always!

**MacLean** · 02-15-09, 11:41 PM

Uh, if Eve was supposed to protect Adam from the apple, that was the world's first:

EPIC FAIL.

**Willowdared** · 02-16-09, 12:37 AM

Attribution?

**MacLean** · 02-16-09, 02:52 AM

Originally Posted by PDawg

Attribution?

Genesis?

**Odd** · 02-16-09, 03:03 AM

Original author doesn't list the source of that divorce stat.

Thought that might be what you were looking for.

**MacLean** · 02-16-09, 03:13 AM

Originally Posted by Odd

Thought that might be what you were looking for.

I figured she was too, but since she didn't quote it was a chance to be funny.

**Buttercup** · 02-16-09, 08:19 AM

Originally Posted by maclean

Genesis?

**Willowdared** · 02-16-09, 06:38 PM

Originally Posted by Odd

Original author doesn't list the source of that divorce stat.

Thought that might be what you were looking for.

Thanks Odd....yes indeed...I was looking for the author.

Claudia Miclaus
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Having read Genesis, some of the terms were unfamiliar to me.

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him.
-- Genesis 2: 18

**Willowdared** · 02-16-09, 06:45 PM

Originally Posted by maclean

I figured she was too, but since she didn't quote it was a chance to be funny.

Seemed a bit too long to quote.

**Xiphos** · 02-16-09, 08:12 PM

Originally Posted by maclean

Uh, if Eve was supposed to protect Adam from the apple, that was the world's first:

EPIC FAIL.

Oh how we love to beat up on poor Eve!

The Fall of Man
1Now (A)the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, "Indeed, has God said, 'You shall not eat from any tree of the garden'?"

2The woman said to the serpent, "(B)From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat;

3but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, 'You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.'"

4(C)The serpent said to the woman, "You surely will not die!

5"For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and (D)you will be like God, knowing good and evil."

6(E)When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate.

Notice that Eve didn't run off to find Adam and give him the fruit. She didn't dice it up and slip it into dinner.

"She gave also to her husband with her, and he ate."

Adam is standing there the whole time. He never says, "Hey this is a bad idea." Or, "We shouldn't eat that."

While his wife is doing something she shouldn't be doing, he is silent. Where is the spiritual leader? Where is the protector? Where is the man?

In fact it's his job to cultivate and "keep" the garden and he fails that job as well when he let the serpent into the garden.

Then what happens when they get caught?

11And He said, "Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?"

12(K)The man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate."

He's a weasel. It's the woman's fault. The woman God gave him, it's God's fault too. He stood there mouth breathing as she spoke to the serpent, and then without objection participated in eating the fruit, and now it's all her fault. And God's fault for making her. Pass the buck.

I submit the fall was Adam's fault. He failed to "keep" the garden and make sure the serpent wasn't there in the first place. He failed his roll as protector when he let Eve engage in the conversation with the serpent. And he was a complicit accomplice when he ate without objection. Then he blames her and God like a weasel.

I didn't post this for rep from all the women but that would be nice.

This is essentially an excerpt of a talk I have given to men at a family conference and marriage preparation.

Fair and balanced, it's not all her fault.

**Jenna** · 02-16-09, 08:23 PM

Originally Posted by Xiphos

He's a weasel. It's the woman's fault. The woman God gave him, it's God's fault too. He stood there mouth breathing as she spoke to the serpent, and then without objection participated in eating the fruit, and now it's all her fault. And God's fault for making her. Pass the buck.

Describing Adam like you'd describe a perp. Awesome! I especially like the "mouth breathing" part which I've seen you use many times to describe various idiots you encounter in your work.

**MacLean** · 02-16-09, 08:24 PM

LOL!

I was being facetious, but that is a darn good explanation.

I must spread some reputation around before...

**Xiphos** · 02-16-09, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by maclean

I was being facetious,

I figured, it's a very common joke to blame Eve and women (I blame my wife all the time.

)

You just gave me the sounding board I needed to launch into that.

**Buttercup** · 02-17-09, 10:09 AM

Originally Posted by Xiphos

Oh how we love to beat up on poor Eve!

Notice that Eve didn't run off to find Adam and give him the fruit. She didn't dice it up and slip it into dinner.

"She gave also to her husband with her, and he ate."

Adam is standing there the whole time. He never says, "Hey this is a bad idea." Or, "We shouldn't eat that."

While his wife is doing something she shouldn't be doing, he is silent. Where is the spiritual leader? Where is the protector? Where is the man?

In fact it's his job to cultivate and "keep" the garden and he fails that job as well when he let the serpent into the garden.

Then what happens when they get caught?

He's a weasel. It's the woman's fault. The woman God gave him, it's God's fault too. He stood there mouth breathing as she spoke to the serpent, and then without objection participated in eating the fruit, and now it's all her fault. And God's fault for making her. Pass the buck.

I submit the fall was Adam's fault. He failed to "keep" the garden and make sure the serpent wasn't there in the first place. He failed his roll as protector when he let Eve engage in the conversation with the serpent. And he was a complicit accomplice when he ate without objection. Then he blames her and God like a weasel.

I didn't post this for rep from all the women but that would be nice.

This is essentially an excerpt of a talk I have given to men at a family conference and marriage preparation.

Fair and balanced, it's not all her fault.

Rep from me for that, Xiphos!

**Pinki** · 02-21-09, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by Xiphos

Oh how we love to beat up on poor Eve!

Notice that Eve didn't run off to find Adam and give him the fruit. She didn't dice it up and slip it into dinner.

"She gave also to her husband with her, and he ate."

Adam is standing there the whole time. He never says, "Hey this is a bad idea." Or, "We shouldn't eat that."

While his wife is doing something she shouldn't be doing, he is silent. Where is the spiritual leader? Where is the protector? Where is the man?

In fact it's his job to cultivate and "keep" the garden and he fails that job as well when he let the serpent into the garden.

Then what happens when they get caught?

He's a weasel. It's the woman's fault. The woman God gave him, it's God's fault too. He stood there mouth breathing as she spoke to the serpent, and then without objection participated in eating the fruit, and now it's all her fault. And God's fault for making her. Pass the buck.

I submit the fall was Adam's fault. He failed to "keep" the garden and make sure the serpent wasn't there in the first place. He failed his roll as protector when he let Eve engage in the conversation with the serpent. And he was a complicit accomplice when he ate without objection. Then he blames her and God like a weasel.

I didn't post this for rep from all the women but that would be nice.

This is essentially an excerpt of a talk I have given to men at a family conference and marriage preparation.

Fair and balanced, it's not all her fault.

Very good points!

A little late with the rep, but incoming