As the summer months heat up, violent crime will increase significantly in cities across the country, bringing an onslaught of national media coverage about deadly incidents involving the police. Unfortunately, these news stories won’t cover the emotional toll experienced by the officers responding to these calls. Officers need constant reminders about these unique stressors.
A cop’s daily goal is to get home safely after a tour of duty. Most think of this in a physical sense and either forget or fail to consider the spiritual, psychological and emotional wounds the officer endures over the course of his shift. If you are blessed to work your entire career without getting injured, you are the lucky exception.
Countless officers go home daily with an emotional burden few understand. Officers run toward gunfire when everyone else is running away. Officers deal with victims who are drug addicted, drunk, shot at, stabbed, raped and abused. They touch the victims to calm and save them, and they listen to and write down their horror stories. They search the suspects and offenders who sometimes raise the hair on the backs of their necks because the evil is palpable. A cop’s safety is often compromised by helping people they have never met and who sometimes acknowledge their efforts with insults and hate. Calls are answered regardless of color, race or religion. After rendering aid and writing a report, the officer then moves on to the next call. The amount of emotional capital expended when dealing with these sins daily is exhausting and it is killing some officers.
The violence and the resulting fallout that officers see is one part of this equation. Officers see, feel, touch, taste and smell the awfulness of these incidents, and they sometimes vicariously experience the effects of grief-stricken families. All of this often causes chronic stress that can lead to overwhelming dire consequences.
Officers are plain tired. Unending calls involving tragedy and working long and odd hours makes many officers return home exhausted. They have little motivation to do anything but sit in an easy chair with a beverage and channel surf mindlessly. They may be ignoring their health and familial duties. Self-repair is often ignored and the reasons are little under stood by the officers themselves.
While few agencies are trying to do better to help their officers, there are even fewer that have programs and protocols in place that work. In Chicago, seven officers committed suicide in under a year — three of them were on duty. I can’t help but think about the first officers on scene; they had to deal with the suicide of one of their own.
I recently spoke to a Chicago Police officer who had been involved in an incident where a fellow officer was murdered. He spoke to me about the emotional toll of hearing the bullets whiz by his head, and he described the amount of blood on scene and how he felt knowing that his colleague was dead. Any officer who has been in a violent encounter that resulted in another officer’s death never forgets and is never the same.
After the event, the officer said he needed time off to let his mind, body and spirit unpack this critical incident. He suffered survivor’s guilt. He replayed the incident in his head, second-guessing his actions on the scene. His reactions were typical of the responses many officers have to such incidents, but nevertheless still agonizing.
The officer felt betrayed by his boss for criticizing his response, making this burden weigh tons more than it already had. Callous bosses seem to be more common than most think. I’ve known bosses who have said, “OK, it’s back to work.” I felt for this officer because he already felt betrayed by the politicians, media and the communities he served. He went on to say, “Being betrayed by your boss, a fellow officer, is terrible.”
Leadership must acknowledge and help officers dealing with emotional issues sooner rather than later. They need to intervene before an officer’s issues become unmanageable. Grief-stricken officers can hardly bear the pain. Counseling can help officers learn the skills that will help them function properly in the hell they encounter on the job and allow them to appropriately share their grief with families in order to divide it into manageable pieces.
Few in or out of law enforcement understand or care about these issues. Few officers come out of their career undamaged. Here are some healthy suggestions to manage the horrors you may encounter:
- Mentally reflect on your day. Recognize what parts of it were difficult and why. Too many cops bury their feelings. Worse, they drink, eat or engage in promiscuity for the fleeting pleasures they offer.
- Carefully assess all options before you accept medication from a doctor to mask feelings. Medication should be a last resort. What are often diagnosed as mental problems in reality is this: the cop is overwhelmed by daily routines and the normal problems of life. From time to time, we all deal with relationship issues, financial problems and more. If we fail to address the small issues, they will soon grow into monsters too difficult to slay.
- Meditate daily. Download the Headspace app on your phone; the first 10 sessions are free and you can play them over and over. Or search YouTube for meditation videos. There are hundreds to choose from, including religious options.
- Demonstrate that you value yourself by putting a monthly health and wellness day on your calendar that focuses on healthy pleasures. Check out some examples at right.
The issues law enforcement face daily are exceptional and must be addressed routinely, and often in unconventional ways. The price paid for ignoring them is too steep for our families and ourselves. What are you willing to do to stay healthy and safe for yourself, your loved ones and your peers? I hope it is more than just reading this article.